I understand that insecurities are a natural part of life that everyone experiences. After I graduated from Haramaya university when I got back to my home city Addis Ababa, out of nowhere, my face started changing with a lot of dark spots. Everybody around me kept asking me “what’s wrong with your face?” which made me feel terrible and took away all of my confidences.
I sought help from several dermatologists, but it did not help. I bought a lot of expensive skin care products, but it was only for temporary solution. This left me feeling depressed. I became full of anxiety believing that I had ruined my life. I found it difficult to talk to anyone about it and had to cancel many of my plans due to my insecurities. It may seem straightforward, but it was not, particularly for a young lady who appreciates leisure and leads a modest lifestyle. I was thinking about my pals’ perfect glass skin when we first met.
When I saw the movie called “Wonder” at that time all my belief started to change. I relate with this movie. Probably I feel and understand this more than anyone around. I can say that the film proved my life saver, and also if you want stunning acting go and watch the movie. Julia Robert and Owen Wilson wonderfully played the characters.
Wonder movie is adopted from Wonder book by J.C palacio novel, the movie pilot is about years old with craniofacial condition, a genetic disorder that affect chick bones. Even he had a lot of surgeries he cannot skip from facial difference, and he had 27 surgeries in ten years. He had also a passion of astronomy; his bedroom is full of artistic space science arts.
His mother Isabel had taught him at home till he was in grade 5. When his parents decided to go to a new school called Beecher to better connect the kids and environment, Auggie wasn’t happy about it and became furious because of his face.
After a long talk Augge was convinced to go to new school but he was afraid about his face. In his first day of school he did not find a school friend, but it took a lot of bullying. When he got home he wasn’t happy about school. And he left the table with anger; his mom followed him to his new bedroom and said “you can’t leave a table like this”.
He started to cry and asked her “Why do I have to be ugly”?
Wait, what would you answer if your son poses to you the same question?
“You are not ugly Augge.”
“You are just saying this because you are my mom.”
Because I am your mom doesn’t count!
“Yeah”
“Because I am mom it counts the most because I know you the most, you are not ugly and anyone who cares to know, will see that.”
The next days of school Augge can see the school well, gradually he can communicate with class mates, especially one of his first friends Jack then he can get his happiness back. Finding the little joys of every time is good but you aren’t supposed to be happy every time, you have to have peaks and valleys to appreciate the happy moments more. Yeah, that was a thing Augge experience at that time.
Another thing you can see in these movies is the power of family. Augge has amazing family who is there no matter what. And also Auggge’s older sister, like her parent says, she is the most understanding girl, who helped her brother a lot. She was really outstanding, and her mother knows it, because all her parent’s attention diverts to Augge and his medical needs, she doesn’t even ask attention from her family.
The incident occurred when Augge went to celebrate Hallowing Day. He overheard his closest buddy talking badly about himself, which made him feel horrible about himself. He also questioned why he looked this way. After a long period of being distracted, Augge decided not to talk to his best friend.
When Via finds Augge crying in his room that evening, he is so distraught that he doesn’t want to attend the Halloween parade. He initially declines her invitation as she tries to persuade him to go. She eventually persuades him to don his Boba Fett costume when she manages to get him to talk to her. He finally gives in and follows her. That sequence in the movie was probably the hardest. And she also told him that, whatever what others may say about you, they are unable to disturb your inner tranquility. and this makes to cope with my insecurities and find comfort in his faith, allowing me to remain unaffected by the hurtful things people say.
In summary, he bravely decided to accept himself as he is after going through some incredibly difficult circumstances. After all, he realizes that despite his many failures, his name is regarded with greatness.
This movie makes me cry, you might find it hard to understand if you do not have this type of insecurities. At the same time I can have the satisfaction from this too.
“Wonder” is an excellent illustration of the fact that a movie is a vital tool for thought transfer. According to Cillian Murphy, one of my favorite artists “we find so many empathies in novels because there you are putting yourself into somebody else’s point of view, a movie can connect with someone and they feel seen and feel heard”, I can attest to the fact that these movies provide me with relief.
You should live your life cheerfuly instead of pointing out insecurities that steals your happiness .It is important for individuals to develop a healthy self-image regardless of external opinion.
At that time, I broke down in tears and told my mother how I felt at that moment. She moved from dread of her to freedom, listening intently, showing me complete sympathy, and loving me as a mother would a daughter, Read a book if you’re insecure about your knowledge. Go out and strike up a conversation with someone if you are shy about meeting new people and creating friends. If you are insecure about your skin, we’ll do everything in our power to make you feel better about it. Furthermore, once you overcome your insecurities, recognize your initial area of weakness. After that, put it to use. If you feel bad about your skin, we will do anything; she told me how to get confidence.
Even though I am coping with skin issues, I do not want to hide from anyone. I do not want to use instead hydrate myself and eating natural, organic food might help in that way truly accept who am I breakthrough, I got peace of mind more than ever and decide how to love my face.
Free from hypocrisy. True elegance goes beyond mere appearances to encompass how we treat others and the positive energy we share. We are all here for a purpose – as humans, our fundamental purpose is simply to live. I believe in savoring each moment and avoiding excessive over thinking. I strive to stay present. Just give to love to the world and appreciate each other.
BY KALKIDAN NEGASH
THE ETHIOPIAN HERALD FRIDAY 25 OCTOBER 2024
